The Question a Client Asked Me That Changed Everything
I had been doing couples therapy for a few months when a client asked me a question I couldn’t answer. Her question sent me down a path that completely changed how I work with couples on the brink of divorce. Note: The story below is real. Names and identifying details have been changed to protect […]
Why Couples Therapy Fails — And What Actually Works
After years sitting with couples in crisis, I’ve noticed something most therapists won’t say out loud: a lot of couples therapy doesn’t work. Not because the couples don’t care. Not because the therapist isn’t trying. But because the approach itself is built on a flawed assumption. I want to tell you about a couple I […]
What Years of Working with Intercultural Couples Taught Me About Love, Language, and Disconnection
In 2018, I started working with immigrant families in the Greater Boston area. My wife and I provided weekly in-home therapy visits — showing up at people’s homes, supporting parents, and strengthening the bond between them and their children. What I saw in those homes changed the way I understand relationships. One of the most […]